Humbled Healing Wholeness

My parents separated when I was a junior in high school.  They forced me to go to counseling.

I was livid.

Not about the separation, about the counseling.

I showed up to the office of a highly educated psychologist and barely uttered a word.  I gave her the stanky eye for 50 minutes every week and if she tried to ask me questions, I answered in yes, no’s, and maybe so’s.  My parents paid a pretty penny for her expertise and then we’d drive home in silence.  I wanted them to feel the same pain I was feeling.  They hurt me so I wanted to hurt them.  The stanky eye silent treatment was my best weapon.

Eventually the counselor found a way to break down my walls and led me beyond yes, no’s, and maybe so’s.  Fast forward 10+ years, and I find my parents’ belief in counseling to be their greatest strength.  Counseling has become one of the most effective tools in my own life for healing and wholeness.  Because let’s be honest, there’s some hard stuff going on out there and the more we stuff the stuff down, the harder life gets.


I leave on November 5th for a five week trip to one of my favorite places on earth.  My return trip to Kenya has been prompted by a conference in Nairobi that myself and a few caregivers are attending as part of an overall initiative to create a safe, healthy, and loving environment in the Children’s Home I volunteered with last year.  The structure of the home is four sets of Kenyan couples who care for about thirty orphans each.

According to my sister, one child is challenging.


Can you imagine thirty?


All 117 of the children in this home have suffered the unimaginable loss of their biological parents.  And many have endured trauma and hardship on a level that is impossible for me to comprehend.


A counseling program began in the home last January and my hope is for it to continue.  The program includes trauma counseling for the children, career counseling for the high school graduates, and education on challenges that come up at different developmental stages.  It is also designed to equip the house parents with more tools to better care for the emotional needs of all 117 children in the home.

People often ask me how they can help . . . contributing financially towards this counseling program is an incredibly impactful way to help.

Please consider a donation by clicking on the link below . . .

**At the bottom, choose orphans and vulnerable children – select Kipkaren Children’s Home**

Enter “Counseling Program” in the Comments Section.

With so much love and gratitude,



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  1. Kathleen banks says:

    Well said, as always, Colleen!

  2. Having been on the patient end of counseling myself many years ago I couldn’t agree more with your analogy. Even when I initiated the counseling myself the walls still went up. Crazy how we sabotage our own healing. I think this is amazing, challenging, wonderful, scary, needed, will be rejected, and such a blessing from God.

    Can’t wait to hear more. With love and encouragement, Maria and Russ

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